Dating on your terms.
You decide who you meet, when, where and on what conditions. Everything is agreed clearly in advance, discreetly and safely.
Ready in 2 minutes. Always free for women.
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Ohlala
New request · Dinner
Tonight, 8:00 PM
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Your experience
Dating that revolves around you.
You receive requests, take your time to review them and decide for yourself. No pressure, no endless swiping. You choose who gets your time.
- You choose who you meet
- You set the terms
- 100 % discreet and safe
Why Ohlala
Dating on your terms.
You set the terms
You decide the conditions under which you meet. For every single date.
You choose who you meet
Review profiles, chat beforehand, decline any time. You are always in control.
Cashless throughout
Everything runs through the app, no cash and no handovers.
100 % discreet
Nobody from your circle will find you here. No screenshots.
Receive requests for free
Signing up and receiving requests is free. Tips stay entirely with you.
Flexible
Date whenever you want. You set your own pace.
How it works
Ready in 3 steps.
01
Create your profile
Sign up free and get verified. Ready to go in 2 minutes.
02
Receive requests and set your terms
You receive date requests (or open one yourself) and name your price and your conditions.
03
Meet and get paid
You pick an offer, meet in real life and get paid discreetly through the app.
Safety and discretion
Your safety. Your privacy.
Safety and discretion come first at Ohlala.
Verified men
Every man is checked by ID. No anonymous profiles.
You are always in control
You decide who you meet and what happens on a date. Nothing is ever an obligation.
Visible to members only
Your profile never appears publicly on the web, only signed in members can see it.
You share what you want
You decide which photos and details are visible.
Discreet payouts
Neutral wording on your statement. No traces on your bank account.
Support around the clock
Our team is available for you at any time.
How we protect you
Safety is not a promise, it is a process.
Every request passes the same checks before it reaches you. You only ever see what made it through.
01
ID verification
Every man confirms his identity with an official ID and a live selfie. Without that step he cannot message you.
02
Behaviour review
Suspicious behaviour, complaints or crossing boundaries lead to an immediate ban. Banned people cannot open a new account.
03
Clear agreement upfront
Place, time frame and conditions are written down before you meet. What is not agreed does not apply.
04
Support during the date
Check in timer, location sharing with someone you trust and a direct line to our team, at any hour.
Our rules
Clear boundaries. No grey zone.
Ohlala is a dating platform. What two adults agree in private is their business, but on the platform clear rules apply.
This goes without saying
- You decline any request without giving a reason.
- You end a date at any point, even halfway through.
- You decide which photos and details are visible.
- You report uncomfortable behaviour in two clicks.
This is never tolerated
- Pressure, pushing or crossing boundaries of any kind.
- Asking for private contact details before a date.
- Screenshots or sharing photos and chat content.
- Unverified or duplicate accounts.
Dating safely
Your guide to a good date
Before
- Chat at your own pace and put expectations in writing.
- Pick a public place for a first meeting.
- Share place and time with someone you trust.
- Stay in the Ohlala chat until you are truly sure.
During
- Keep your bag, phone and drink with you.
- Use the check in timer in the app.
- If it feels wrong, you leave. No explanation needed.
- Our support team is reachable at night too.
After
- Leave a rating, it protects other women.
- Report anything that felt off.
- Chats delete themselves after the date.
- You decide whether there is a second time.
Member voices
Why women stay here
„For the first time I feel like I set the terms, not the other way round.“
„Knowing every man is verified makes a huge difference. I arrive far more relaxed.“
„I cancelled twice without explaining myself. That is exactly how it should be.“
Quotes from members, anonymised on request. Names changed.
Discretion
Nobody finds out that you are here
Your privacy is part of the product, not an add on. These rules apply to every profile.
No public profile
Your profile never appears in search engines and is only visible to signed in, verified members.
Screenshots blocked
Screenshots are blocked inside the app. Attempts are logged and lead to a ban.
Chats delete themselves
Chat history disappears automatically after every date. Nothing is left behind.
Neutral bank wording
Payouts appear with neutral wording, with no reference to Ohlala.
You control visibility
Show single photos on approval only, hide specific people, pause your profile at any time.
Data deleted on request
One click deletes your account and all of its content. Permanently, no questions asked.
Help and contact
You are never left alone with it.
Whether it is a question before signing up or an uncomfortable situation after a date, we answer quickly and personally.
Contact supportReachable around the clock
Our team replies seven days a week, at night and on weekends too.
A personal contact
On request, sensitive matters are handled by a woman on our team.
Fast response to reports
Reported profiles are reviewed immediately and suspended when in doubt.
FAQ
Everything you want to know.
Honest answers to the questions women ask us most. If something is missing, write to us and you will get a personal reply.
Yes. Ohlala is permanently free for women: no subscription, no activation fee and no cost per request. The platform is funded on the men's side.
- Sign up, verification and profile: 0 €
- Receiving requests, chatting and declining: 0 €
- No auto renewal, because there is no subscription
Your question is not here?
Write to us in your own time. You will get a personal answer, usually within a few hours, and from a woman on our team if you prefer.
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